When I became a MIL 3 times over back in 2018 and 2019, there wasn’t enough written about doing MIL well. I gave my new role a lot of prayer and intentionality. I think you’ve hit on three of the most important issues to having good relationships with my adult children’s spouses, and I appreciate your wisdom.
MIL role is hard work. My relationship with one Donny DIL’s has flourished and by serving her, she and I have developed a good friendship and trust. What has become more complicated is when her parents presume my actions have other intentions. The easy part is acknowledging how that could have been hurtful while being misunderstood. However, Dealing with my hurt feelings AFTER the conflict has been hard. Avoiding the “other in laws” has been my default and it’s wrong. I don’t want that to affect the growth and trust I have made with my DIL
Thank you for sharing your journey as a MIL. I'm so glad you are seeing the fruits of building that relationship. May the Lord give you wisdom to extend that wisdom to her parents.
I think I hear you say I may need to serve them with humility as well. I will pray on this. I’m sure Christ would have a very simple uncomplicated way to serve, share and love. 😊. You can never go wrong with breaking bread together! Thank you
When I became a MIL 3 times over back in 2018 and 2019, there wasn’t enough written about doing MIL well. I gave my new role a lot of prayer and intentionality. I think you’ve hit on three of the most important issues to having good relationships with my adult children’s spouses, and I appreciate your wisdom.
MIL role is hard work. My relationship with one Donny DIL’s has flourished and by serving her, she and I have developed a good friendship and trust. What has become more complicated is when her parents presume my actions have other intentions. The easy part is acknowledging how that could have been hurtful while being misunderstood. However, Dealing with my hurt feelings AFTER the conflict has been hard. Avoiding the “other in laws” has been my default and it’s wrong. I don’t want that to affect the growth and trust I have made with my DIL
Thank you for sharing your journey as a MIL. I'm so glad you are seeing the fruits of building that relationship. May the Lord give you wisdom to extend that wisdom to her parents.
I think I hear you say I may need to serve them with humility as well. I will pray on this. I’m sure Christ would have a very simple uncomplicated way to serve, share and love. 😊. You can never go wrong with breaking bread together! Thank you